- Category: Opinion
- Written by Jim Dee
I'll resume with the pop music analysis on Monday (look for Who's the Dog, Volume >2). For today, I figured I'd recount an unusual experience. Here's the skinny:
Yesterday, I made a comment on a woman's blog. Soon after, she emailed me with a question about how a common blog feature works. So, I answered her. Then, she emailed me back, thanking me.
In her thank-you note, she said I was her favorite person, which is understandable for two reasons: First, it's a common saying and means nothing; and second, I'm probably a lot of people's favorite person. But then, she included a link to an article on MSNBC. Below the link, it said, "Are you manly, Patrick?"
Gee, that's odd, I figured. Seeing that it was an MSNBC link, I figured I'd click through. The story was entitled: What an Ovulating Girl Wants: Manly Men. According to the opening lines of the article, "[a] woman prefers a more masculine man when she is fertile and looking for a fling rather than a mate for life, according to a new study" [emphasis mine].
I wasn't sure, but I suspected I was being hit on. Either that, or there was some obvious joke I just wasn't getting. To confirm my suspicion, I asked for my wife's opinion.
"She'd definitely hitting on you," she said.
I was shocked. "But, why? I mean, I didn't give her any signals that I was looking for a fling."
She laughed. "No, but some women are forward."
Still, something didn't add up. "I think this lady's blog said she's married with a kid."
My wife said that didn't matter. "Some women simply know what they want and they go for it." She seemed impressed with the woman's self-confidence, actually.
I still wasn't clear on the issue. "They just hit on men directly like that," I asked, "with no indications that the guy is open to being hit on?"
She returned this look, which seemed to say, "Welcome to the daily lives of women all over the world." And, then she said something pretty much equivalent to that. "Guys do this kind of stuff every day. They just walk up and hit on women without receiving any indication that the woman is interested."
I hadn't thought if it that way. Hmm, it must be weird being a woman -- all these horn-dog guys approaching you all the time ... Gee, I think I'm suddenly in touch with my feminine side. Maybe I DO have a shot with Alanis Morissette after all!
[ps I was intentionally vague about who this woman was, as I figured she was married and didn't want me to let the cat out of the proverbial bag by outing her, assuming she's on the prowl for some manly side dish to see her through such cyclical cravings.]
Below, are the original comments on this post. Additional comments may be made via Facebook, below.
On April 27, 2007, wrote:
No. That E-mail was from me. I was asking a serious question.
On April 28, 2007, wrote:
you said I was the only one.